Overcoming jealousy problems can be difficult because we attack them in the wrong way. We will try to overcome jealousy by trying to change the way we think. We believe that we can by trusting our partner more. But jealousy is not really about trust. Jealousy is about how we feel about ourselves. Jealousy is how bad it makes us feel about ourselves if we feel that our partner likes the look of someone or fines them attractive, possibly even more attractive than us. Therefore overcoming jealousy must start with changing how we feel about ourselves.
Jealousy is generally accepted as a feeling we have when we believe a relationship that is very important to us is under threat. Although jealousy is very often confused with envy, which comes from a deep desire to want to have something or be like someone, jealousy is actually an anger and envy is a want, two very different feelings.
Jealousy normally starts as a doubt, moves on to a feeling of deep hurt and then to anger. This can be very destructive to a relationship and results in putting restrictions on to partners, as to where they can go, what they can look at and who they can speak to etc.
Very often the doubts that start the feelings of jealousy come from a feeling of inadequacy about ourselves. Unfortunately,
those feelings of inadequacy, doubt and hurt then lead to anger and arguments which make us feel pretty bad about ourselves,
resulting in us feeling even more inadequate. This causes a cycle to develop of more inadequacy, doubts, hurt, and anger,
us feel more jealous and more inadequate. We then become full
of negative thoughts about not only the relationship but also about ourselves.
In some cases the partner of someone suffering from jealousy problems can quite like the adoration that is being shown to them. They enjoy the feeling that this person loves them so much they are so scared they will go off with someone else. They feel they are so wonderful that everyone must find them attractive, until the arguments and restrictions become too much. It is therefore worth remembering when someone is overcoming jealousy that the partner may well feel a loss of that adoration and will need to be able to cope with that.
Any situation we find our self in that makes us feel jealous we try to avoid and the thought of being in that situation makes us feel stressed and anxious. Through hypnosis we can learn how to relax and therefore take away the stress and anxiety.
With the use of autosuggestion while in the lovely relaxed state of hypnosis we can learn to feel better about ourselves improving our self esteem. This makes us feel more positive and feel we can overcome the problem.
Feeling positive, relaxed and better about ourselves means we act in a more positive way. We don't feel so inadequate therefore less hurt and angry. Feeling positive makes us act in a more positive way which makes us feel good about our self and our achievement which in turn makes us feel more positive. In this way we reverse the cycle from feeling more and more negative to more and more positive. We then feel more comfortable in the relationship and less jealous.
Although the above applies to most cases of jealousy problems in some way or another, it is a generalisation. We are all individuals and we act and react in different ways. Every one of us has different problems, therefore we must look at each person's problem with an open mind and therapy must be tailored to fit the individual.
This starts with a counselling session when you have an opportunity to talk about your jealousy problem in total confidentiality and find out if I may be able to help you with overcoming jealousy. This half hour initial session is free.
There is no obligation for you to continue with a hypnotherapy session, it is up to you if you choose to take therapy any further
The next step would normally be a hypnotherapy session, the fee for which his £50.00.
Should you decide at the end of the initial consultation that you would like to continue there and then with a counselling session or a hypnotherapy session, this is possible so long as I have the time at that point. Hypnotherapy costs £50.00 per one hour session, counselling is £35.00 per 1 hour session.
To book your free first session phone
A personalised mp3 therapy session tailored and recorded to your individual jealousy problem.
For this therapy you will be asked to fill in a form telling me all about your jealousy in as much detail as possible. From this I prepare a hypnotherapy session to help you stop being jealous then record this session on CD or mp3 for you to download.
Personalised downloaded mp3's cost £40.00 and the CD cost £45.00 including free shipping
To help you reduce your jealousy you can now download this pre-recorded mp3. immediately.
This will help you feel less jealous by making it easy for you to relax, giving you more self worth and helping you feel better about yourself. It will help reduce feelings of anger and hurt, consequently relieving and overcoming jealousy problems.